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A Word for the Year
Tending changes things: quietly, steadily, and often before we notice it happening.
coachinghope4u
Jan 63 min read


When Stress Takes Your Sight
All I knew was that somewhere inside my marriage—quietly, gradually, and without warning—I began losing the ability to recognize faces. Not strangers. Not distant acquaintances. People I knew.
coachinghope4u
Dec 9, 20254 min read


Why Are We Still Asking Survivors to Sit Beside Their Abusers?
If you tremble, you’re emotional.
If you set boundaries, you’re high-conflict.
If you cry, you’re unstable.
coachinghope4u
Nov 25, 20253 min read


Trusting Your Intuition After Intimate Betrayal: 6 Tools
Intuition is often described as a gut feeling , a quiet whisper that rises from within before our minds can piece together logic or evidence. It doesn’t rely on a spreadsheet of facts, a timeline of events, or even someone else’s validation. Instead, intuition is rooted in deep knowing—an inner compass designed to keep us safe, aligned, and aware. When you’ve experienced intimate betrayal , intuition can feel both like a gift and a curse. Many women recall moments when their
coachinghope4u
Oct 2, 20254 min read


When Divorce Meets the Sidelines: Navigating the Discomfort of Shared Spaces
You show up to cheer for your child, heart pounding with love and pride, only to feel the air shift the moment their father arrives.
coachinghope4u
Sep 14, 20253 min read


Faith Community: Are You a Protector?
My face was not pleasant; I crossed my arms and looked at the stupid big cross on the wall in front of me and thought, “How could You?”
coachinghope4u
Jun 19, 20254 min read


Samaritan Woman ≠ Shunned, Divorced Whore
The story of the woman at the well has been dissected ad nauseam which is why I’m baffled when I still hear her referred to as a divorced whore. I do not believe the Samaritan woman at the well is a divorced whore.
coachinghope4u
May 15, 20257 min read


Not a Casserole Widow™: Refocus
Waiting for an inevitable divorce to be finalized can feel like watching grains of sand falling through an hourglass. However, it is an...
coachinghope4u
Dec 17, 20243 min read


Dear Mom,
How do children react to parents navigating relational betrayal? The night my children's father and I informed our children he would be...
coachinghope4u
Nov 12, 20244 min read


Not a Casserole Widow: Responding to the Storm
I saw something come across her face and she turned away from me.
coachinghope4u
Jun 22, 20243 min read


Not a Casserole Widow™: The Drive to Court Emotion
Monday, January 22, 2024, I went to court again. I can't actually remember how many times I have been to court over the past 5 years. ...
coachinghope4u
Jan 28, 20245 min read


Not a Casserole Widow™: The Empty Room Emotion
My sleep was abysmal the first night my children were gone. A sensation like black tar surrounded me which restricted my movements. ...
coachinghope4u
Dec 30, 20233 min read


Faith Communities: Stay at Home Mom Prenup?
“I have been a stay at home mom ( SAHM ) for 23 years, homeschooling our 3 children. I have no skills, no income, and our children are...
coachinghope4u
Oct 24, 20234 min read


Not a Casserole Widow™: Tithe for Widows?!
Here's a piece of hope to overcome a shame I carried for years. Maybe it will release you too.
coachinghope4u
Sep 23, 20233 min read


My Gift. Look for My Clues! (Hint: Daughter joy!)
Court messes me up.
coachinghope4u
Sep 2, 20225 min read


Not a Casserole Widow™: Fear of Success
She said these words: “I’m not afraid of failure. I’m afraid of success.” My mind went in to overload. It was so simply profound, I...
coachinghope4u
Jan 7, 20222 min read


Not a Casserole Widow™: 3 Things You Wish People Knew
"You are 'Not a Casserole Widow'. What do you want people to know? What do you wish you could tell them?" 1. "Stop telling me to...
coachinghope4u
Dec 19, 20212 min read


Not a Casserole Widow™: Healing with Fire
Free me. Free me from the horror. Freedom. Is freedom possible? Blackness determines your future, Twisting through your heart, lungs, and...
coachinghope4u
Dec 5, 20211 min read


Not a Casserole Widow™: Seeking Sleep
Elusive sleep. 3am. That desolate hour when nothing should be awake. But I am. I look at my clock and think, “If I go back to sleep now,...
coachinghope4u
Nov 7, 20212 min read


Not a Casserole Widow™: Chucking Church
This is what she told me today: I didn’t always hate church but one day, one experience, and one moment changed the way I saw the church....
coachinghope4u
Oct 10, 20214 min read

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